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The Debate Over Spontaneous or Selfish Travel

“I thought you said you wanted to go,” Wayne claims as we are speeding away on I-80 in his blue truck.

Of course I want to go on a spontaneous trip to New York. What kind of accusation is that? I would say no to such a random adventure? Who in their right mind would possibly think of going to New York for the weekend as a terrible trip? Hopefully no one. So yes. I do WANT to go to New York. But there is always that tiny voice in your head that questions the sanity of it.

As I stand on the beach of Long Island and watch the waves crash onto the shore, salty air whirling my hair around, and water rushing to drown my feet into the sand, the same question circles through my head again. Is it right to drop everything and drive to New York? At this exact moment a wave comes and crashes hard into the sand and drenches my dress in cool ocean water, making me laugh and squeal at the surprise of it. The question drifts away with the wind. I sit there and watch the ocean birds and seagulls gliding through the air, diving down to get whatever small crab or insect they could devour for a snack. It was a perfect day. We went to a food truck near the restrooms and got a hot dog with sauerkraut and mustard (and ketchup of course) and a couple of drinks. It’s hot. But it doesn’t really faze either of us. We feel so relaxed and good about ourselves. Who is to say we are wrong?

Well actually plenty of people are to say that. While the younger crowd friends of ours say “so cool” everyone else seems to think of it as a bad idea or irresponsible. When I went on my around the world trip in 2011, I was told that I was being selfish. When I read books about people who do the same, they are told the same thing. Why? Isn’t it actually selfish to call me selfish when in fact perhaps you were wishing you could do the same? Is it irresponsible to spend a couple extra hundred dollars to save our sanity and put our minds at ease for a weekend? Isn’t it all worth it? I think so.

We only have so much time to live the way that we are living now. And then even after more responsibility comes, and more bills and harder jobs, we still will need to cater to our sanity. It is only fair. My mom used to tell me “as long as you are safe and happy that’s all I care about.” Isn’t that all anyone should care about? While I was on that beautiful beach in Long Island, I was so happy that not a care in the world could’ve entered my mind and made me feel that I was wrong. I was with my partner, Wayne, who keeps me safe and vice versa. Safe and happy.

While we probably could’ve saved the extra couple hundred dollars that we spent going to Long Island, New York, nothing could have replaced the way that I felt after. I realized how much I love having this travel partner in my life. To walk along the shore with him while he points out seashells that he loves and I pick up the ones that I love. To walk through the streets of Manhattan and have him find a random wilted rose and pick it up to give it to me as a grand gesture. To laugh together in a random kosher deli at the stereotypical Jewish old folks who would come in. To just be completely yourself with another person who you share everything with. It gives the mind a moment to rest and to truly be grateful for what you have. Everyone deserves a spontaneous trip to New York. Heck! We all deserve a trip to Greece, Barcelona, Rio….just to lighten our obsessions with everyday routines in life.

I may be then selfish….or irresponsible….but then I am Irresponsibly Healthy as well.


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Originally and presently residing in Chicago, Illinois USA. I have lived various places and was bit with the travel bug early in life. I received my Bachelor's in Acting, but could not stay far from a life of travel and writing. Currently, I work in an Irish Pub to pay the bills and have a lovely man with two beautiful daughters in my life. I would love to see all of the World Wonders if possible! (there are about 70 of them)

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